Another of the key components of living the lovingME life is developing a powerful mindset. Being able to choose your thoughts and to focus on what helps you versus what hinders you. Staying in (or quickly returning to) the positive room vs. dwelling in the negative room.
Our thoughts make up our lives. How we spend our time thinking is how we end up living. We are constantly thinking so if you tend to think about the bad things you have experienced or might experience, you are spending a whole lot of time in an uncomfortable state. It is also a paralyzing state for most people. What we think about or worry about we attract. There is more science that supports this now than ever. But the advice to think on things above has been around for thousands of years.
Do we take that advice? Only when we are actively applying the knowledge that we have is it really useful. Only then is it true wisdom. Again, we must become aware of our thought patterns and whether they are helping us or hurting us. Whether they are even true or not. For most people, the majority of daily thoughts are not true but we have inherited, learned or accepted them as truth so we act as if they are.
These are things like – we have always done it that way, that’s just the way it is, I have to be right, to make mistakes is fatal/embarrassing/punishable/to be hidden. Other things include I have to “do” something to be worthy or loveable, I must conform or be outcast, my life would be better if I had X or if I looked like Y, getting my to-do list done is my most important goal, if I don’t make my target, I will be fired or disrespected and that would do me in.
Consider these thoughts. It is likely that you have many of them. Some are more stealthy than others but most of us learned these things long ago and never questioned them. It is time to do so.