Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Very interesting how something intended to be a wonderful celebration of all things love, can be one of the most difficult times for people who seek it.
This holiday is filled with hype of what it “should” look like. What he better give you to prove that he loves you. What she better do for you. And holy smokes, if you don’t happen to be in a relationship? Then it can feel like the whole world is coupled up with only you as the odd man out.
Many years ago, I decided to opt out of this holiday. Most holidays, really, but especially this one. Because of all of the societal pressure and expectations, I figured I really don’t have to play, so I didn’t. We didn’t.
But now I realize that I am my Valentine every day. That may sound conceited or silly. It really isn’t. If I do not love and accept and respect myself, how on earth do I expect anyone else to do so? If I do not love myself with healthy, abundant and overflowing love, then how can I be expected to love someone else that way?
I find that the more I love myself, the more comfortable I am in my own skin and with what I am all about and what I offer, the more I love EVERYONE else. Including and especially my most wonderful, beloved husband, who blesses me every day by his very presence.
So as Valentine’s approaches, how about deciding to be your own Valentine? No pressure or expectation on anyone else outside of you to do something “right” or pressure on yourself to deliver. Just choose to be your own loving best friend today and every day going forward. You are perfect at it!